October 15, 2011

October 15th

Today was a beautiful day. Not only was the weather perfect, but we remembered Cale and were incredibly touched by all those who remembered and acknowledged him today, on Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. While today is the national day of remembrance, it's sort of feels like a holiday for those in the baby loss community -a uniquely special day where those without voices are heard.

My friend Priscilla leads the Face2Face group of Columbus/Fort Benning, GA which originated through Faces of Loss, Faces of Hope. The idea is that those of us who have experienced a loss and have that unfortunate bond can informally gather to connect and support one another. Priscilla organized a balloon release today for all of us to honor our babies and remember them together.There were about a dozen families present. Some who had lost a baby within the last few months, some who had lost more than one baby. Some, like us, who have since had another child, and some who still desperately cling to the hope that they one day will. Our stories and our losses are different, but our love for our children is the same, unending and pure.

 This evening Miles and I lit several candles. We have one lit next to Cale's sketch on our mantle:

And one lit in Cale's garden in our backyard:

And lastly, one in our bedroom next to Cale's urn and ultrasound pictures:

"Those we love don't go away,
they walk beside us everyday.
Unseen, unheard, but always near.
Loved and missed and very dear."

I appreciated all of you who remembered and celebrated Cale with us. Thank you for holding him in your hearts and for honoring all babies who left this world far too soon.


  1. What a beautiful ceremony and loving symbols of remembrance you have surrounded yourself and your family with. Caroline, thank you for sharing your joys and continued connection to Cale. I am encouraged to hear that there is a group like Face2Face where there might be the offer of empathetic support. Hugs to you, Miles and Finn. Love Pam

  2. Looks like a beautiful remembrance day ♥ Thinking of you and your little Cale ♥

  3. So glad you got to spend such an important day with others who really understand!

  4. I'm so glad you were able to come and join in on the balloon release! Beautiful pictures!

  5. Great pictures. You did a beautiful job remembering him. I really like the sketch of Cale you have, How did you get that done?
    Thinking of you and your son.